Happy Thanksgiving

I hope everyone has a wonderful Thanksgiving.  We are enjoying are stress free day and are going to go see the Plaza lights turn on for the first time.  We've only lived in the area for over 30 years.  LOL

Enjoy your holiday with your loved ones!

R going to the grocery store

R only has one assignment today so he offered to finish up the Thanksgiving Day grocery shopping.  I don't think he knew what he was getting into with his offer but I snapped it up quick.  I'm not a fool.  I told him the last minute things we needed.  We already had the turkey, potatoes, bread for stuffing etc.  So we just needed a few things to finish off the meal. 

Of course, R wants a homemade pumpkin pie.  He's called me twice since he's gotten to the store.  Asking were to find things.  LOL  I'm at work but I'm still trying to guide him around the store.  It is so sweet that he is trying to pick up everything else we need for the day - that or he really wanted to make sure he gets his pumpkin pie. 

The Uninvite

So after I posted what inconsiderate people my siblings where on facebook for not calling my Mom after her surgery, I've been uninvited to Thanksgiving.  Do they think this is a big deal to me?  I really wonder if they do.  They are two of the most selfish people I know.  Who wouldn't call their own Mother after they had surgery.  My sister (or should I call her my ex-sister) used my facebook page to see how my Mom was doing.  What a bitch.  Pick up the phone and call her.  You knew she was having surgery.  If you had bothered to call her the week or even a few days before the surgery you would have found out that your Dad was sick and unable to take Mom to surgery.  As I am the only one that stays in constant contact with my parents, I'm the one they depend on to take them to appointments when they can't drive themselves.

My sister is pissed as me also because my niece wanted to know why I posted that message on facebook so I told her to go ask her Mother (my sister) why she cut us out of her life without explanation when my niece was still in grade school.  Oh, karma is a bitch when it comes back to bite you in the ass.  Sister didn't like the fact her daughter now knows that she is the perfect angel she tries to make herself out to be.

I don't know why she thought it wouldn't come out one day that she cut me, R, and my parents out of her life.  Therefore, the niece and nephews lives.  As R says, he still thinks of them as being in grade school because we saw them so rarely from that time on.  They are now 24 and soon to be 22.  I'm tempted to email my niece and tell her that 3 other people can confirm what I told her but at this point I don't want to waste my time. 

So my sister called my Mom last night to ask her to call me to uninvite me  Thanksgiving.  At first Mom said she would call me but Dad put a stop to it and said she could do her own dirty work.  So she texted R.  Now everyone in the family knows R does not text (bitch costs us money).  She didn't even have the guts to text me directly.  So this morning I sent her a text telling never to text R again.  Never to try to make Mom do her dirty work for her.  That I hadn't told her daughter anything I hadn't said to her face and isn't Karma a bitch when it comes back to bite you in the ass.

So we've been uninvited to Thanksgiving.  Good thing we already had a turkey.  LOL

Cane Happy

R is cane happy.  He has decided he wants a longer cane so he can lounge back in bed and smack my backside with the cane.  I think he has forgotten about his belt already or just didn't feel like getting it.  But the man does like the cane.  Says he has to use it so much to get the bend out of it.

Sure he does.  He just like the sound it makes whipping in the air before it hits my ass.  I don't bother to try to count the smacks.  He likes to do it really fast - sometimes soft and fast and sometimes hard and fast.  Then he'll do one really hard smack.  Just as he says, "to see if your awake".  HAHA

Like I could sleep through a cane smacking my ass and him laughing and enjoying himself the whole time.  Then he decided that I should choose which one I liked better the cane or his hand.  I told him which ever one he was using at the time.  LOL  He didn't go for that, told me I had to choose.  So I said his hand since he always had it with him.  Suck up I know.  That seemed to please him.  But then he decided he would take turns with his hand and the cane.

He really enjoyed himself last night.

I have a belt or Why haven't I used this before

So R came out of his closet Friday night carrying his belt.  He said, "Why haven't I ever used this on you?" I told him I didn't know.  He informed me that, that would be taken care of tonight.  He had me lay on the bed as normal and then he couldn't decide if he wanted the belt doubled over or single.  So he tried both.  He decided he liked it double over best. 

I few times I really didn't like how it felt.  R would hit a spot that would have me rising up off the bed.  Of course, he would want to know why I did that and I would have to tell him why I didn't like that particular spot being hit with the belt.  He would think about it and then decide if he would hit me there again or not.

But he still likes the cane the best.  He likes the fact that he can just flick his wrist on get a good sound against my backside.  Depending on how hard he flicks his wrist the cane can make a whistling sound before or as it hits.  I haven't figured out if I hear the sound first or feel the whack first.  LOL 

I'm going to order him a new set of canes for Christmas.  He likes this one particular size the best so I want to make sure he always has them on hand.  I really don't want him to move to the larger size ones (I didn't like them at all).   I lost count of how many times he hit me backside and thighs with the canes but he left some pretty marks that evening but they were gone the next day. 

Then, of course, there is the flogger.  Love the flogger until R starts hitting with just the the tips, then it is really stingy.  But he is the one in control so he gets to decide how it is used and when it is used. 

Oh, he remembered the ping pong paddle in the draw too Friday night.  So it was a night of new adventures and some old favorites.  Wonder what he'll find in his closet for next time. 

Very frustrated

So I went to my Weight Watchers meeting tonight or I should say I tried to go to my WW meeting tonight.  I got there only to find a note on the door that they are renovating the location and the meetings will now be held at a different location.  Well, this location is by a very busy Mall and with the holiday season starting up it will only get busier by that location.  Plus it is 15 miles from my house.  The meeting I normally go to is less than 5 miles from my house (yes, I have missed a few meetings in the past). 

I'm really frustrated that  they couldn't even let us know that they were shutting down the location.  They send me a note if I mess a meeting, so I know they have my address.  I'm going to be making a phone call tomorrow to let them know I am not happy with them.  I will not be driving to the Mall to go to a meeting in rush hour traffic, possibly in the snow (it is fall and is knew to snow around here) and there will be so much traffic around that mall that it will take hours to get in and out (and I am not kidding about that time frame).  They set up busing to other parking lots because there is not enough parking at the Mall.

Very frustrating.  I think I'll just go buy a scale and weigh myself at home.

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Lonely week ahead

R is heading out of town again today.  He'll be gone until Thursday sometime.  Not exactly sure the time he will be back, probably late afternoon or early evening.  It's going to make for an even longer week.  I miss him so much when he is gone.  It feels like a piece of my soul is missing. 

He isn't here when I get home from work.  His office light isn't on.  The news isn't blaring out of the TV in his office (yes, it is loud).  No kisses for 3 days.  I won't have him to snuggle up to in the night. 

I won't fix dinner while he gone - why fix anything for one person?  Of course, I'll get in trouble for just eating instant mashed potatoes for dinner. 

I love that he is so talented that he is wanted but I do miss him when he is gone.  Wish I could go with him and I probable could but I would just be sitting in the hotel while he worked.  Plus I would have to find someone to watch the house and of course, our babies (2 cats).  We don't like to leave them alone - they are very spoiled.

But while R is gone I'm going to work on a Policy of Exercise Requirements, at least I think that is what we are going to call it.  Something that will include how many times a week I must exercise, how much time I must exercise, valid excuse not to exercise (sickness) and of course punishment if I don't follow these rules.  That is going to be the tricky part.  R doesn't mind the sensual spankings but punishment spankings he does not like, at all.  So we will have to come to an agreement that he can live with, since he will be the one giving the punishment.  Any suggestions?

What day is it?

The days are running together.  When the alarm went off yesterday morning I could remember what day of the week it was - did I have to go to work today?  If I didn't then why was my alarm on?  It must be a work day, then I remember it was Friday.  Oh, good the last work day of the week.

Since they laid off 1/2 of my department there is no time to spot once I get to work.  No time to breath, no time to spot to go to the bathroom, no time to spot to do anything but work.  By the time I get home, I am a mental mess.  The brain is mush. It's all I can to do to have logical conversation with R.  He understands that work is very stressful right now.  But it should not effect home but it is and I don't like that it is. 

R was trying to be nice and Thursday I came home to a bag of chocolate laying on top of my laptop.  Oh, thank you.  Later as we were soaking in the tub we were talking and I thanked him again for the chocolate but asked that he not buy me bags of chocolate because it doesn't help in me loosing weight.  I'll just eat the whole bag.  I know myself well enough to know that once that bag is open I won't stop until it is all gone. 

I'm at a 16 lb weight lose (I've gained back 1.6 lbs over the last month).  And I'm coming up on a year of going to Weight Watchers.  We talked about that and R said yes, it is 16 lbs that you haven't gained back so that is good.  So I;m going to keep going to WW, $40 a month isn't a lot but if I end out losing my job it will be one of the first things that is drop as an unnecessary luxary item.  

I'm a stress eater and I've been under a lot of stress.  I know exercise helps release stress but the exercise equipment is buried under all the garage sale stuff in the basement.  Just another thing that didn't get done this summer.  So today we are going to work on digging out the exercise equipment so that I can use it every night. 

We're also going to look for a new Yoga studio since our instructor left our old one - the new teacher isn't very good.  She starts and stops and we're not getting anything out of it.  It's an 1 1/2 hour class and if she put everything she did together without stopping you could get it done in 20 minutes.

So today will be a better day.  R is still sleeping but I think I will go start on the basement anyway.  If I set down and start reading I won't want to quit. 

I also want to talk to him about a spanking maintenance or maybe that should be discipline when I don't exercise.  He would have to use something I don't like, of course.  LOL

So next week I hope to remember what day of the week it is every day.  That seems like a simple enough goal. 

Happy Day to everyone.